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Episode 15

Gaming Guru to Female Entrepreneur Ally A Journey of Reinvention

Have you ever wondered how a broken neck could lead to a thriving career helping female entrepreneurs? Probably not .... Well let that question sink in for a moment because it is about to make sense in a moment.

In this eye-opening episode of La'Quita's Toolbox, I sit down with Philip Wride, a tech expert with an extraordinary journey from gaming enthusiast to empowering women in business.

Philip's story is nothing short of remarkable. From his early days as a 16-year-old entrepreneur in the burgeoning world of online gaming to surviving a life-altering rugby injury, his path has been anything but ordinary. But it's how he channeled these experiences into a mission to support female coaches and entrepreneurs that truly sets him apart.

A Journey of Resilience and Reinvention

Philip shares candidly about:

  • His unexpected entry into entrepreneurship through online gaming communities
  • The shocking moment he discovered he'd been living with a broken neck for seven weeks
  • How personal setbacks led him to reevaluate his purpose and impact

Key Takeaways:

  • The power of trusting your body and intuition in the face of adversity
  • Why niching down can lead to more fulfilling and impactful work
  • How to measure success beyond financial gain

Philip leaves us with two powerful insights that will resonate with entrepreneurs and dreamers alike. Don't miss his perspective on the relationship between happiness, freedom, and focused repetition.

Are you ready to tap into your own resilience and find your unique path to success?

This episode will inspire you to look at setbacks as opportunities and reconsider how you measure impact in your own life and business.

Connect with Philip:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipwride/

Website: https://www.chainedtochampion.com/


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Welcome to Laquita's toolbox, where we

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deliver relevant content in the form of

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tools that empower entrepreneurs to

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elevate personally and professionally.

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envisioned. You know, there's another

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level in you. Here we discuss the tools to

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get you there. Lean in as Laquita and her

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guests present you with strategies and

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insight for unlocking your full potential

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to realize your boldest dream. Welcome

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back to another amazing episode of

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Laquita's Toolbox. I am your host, Laquita

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Mondley, and I am absolutely excited to be

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with you guys once again. And I have a

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fabulous guest in studio with me today and

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his name is Philip. But before we get in

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and paper, indeed, do not forget. And I

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know that Phillip is going to share some

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amazing tools in gems with us today that

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is going to help take our businesses and

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brands to the next level. But without

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further ado, welcome to Laquita's toolbox.

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Philip, how are you? I'm good, thank you,

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Laquita. It's great to be here. I'm

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looking forward to this conversation. Yes,

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I am super excited about that as well.

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Listen, I know about some of the wonderful

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things that you have been doing in this, I

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don't want to say e commerce space. I want

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to say just making money online. Since you

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were about 16 years old, you started out

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in gaming and kind of just went from

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there. Talk to us a little bit about your

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journey at 16. You were a young

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entrepreneur. I was a young entrepreneur,

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yes. So I started with playing video games

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online with friends from school. Now if we

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see stuff in the press today about esports

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and the competitions, it is a big

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business. It's a multi billion dollar

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business. But back in 2001, it was not the

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same. But it was fun, it was exciting, it

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was enjoyable. It was something new for

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me. So I spent pretty much all of my time

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in online communities, building

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relationships, playing with my friends

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from school. And that's what led me down

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that path of being an entrepreneur because

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it's like, oh, there's, there's things

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that I can learn, there's things that I

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can build, there's things that I can do.

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So you know, from an entrepreneurial

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perspective, I was building communities, I

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was writing news articles on some of the

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news sites, I was hosting my own events,

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hosting online and live physical events.

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So it's like, oh, you know, I just want to

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try and do everything within this space

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because it's so exciting. That led me to

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then buying and flipping websites again

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within this online gaming space. Selling

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advertising on them, acting as a broker

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for other community sites is like, guys, I

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can get you advertising, let's work

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together and I'll just take a percentage

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of that. So those were some of the early

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things that I did, helped me through

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university as well. So I had a normal job,

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retail job, going and selling electronics

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and computers and things in one of the

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retail stores in the UK. But then on the

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side I was doing all of this gaming stuff

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as well. You know, making a couple of

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extra. Bits inside was a whole lot more

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exciting than being in the shops selling

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these games. Absolutely. It was, yeah,

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because it was always changing as well.

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There were new games being released, new

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competitions for me to play in with my

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teammates. Yeah, it was, it was an

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exciting time. And that's a. I used to

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spend 5 hours, if not more a night

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practicing and being involved and having

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these conversations and a million chat

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windows open and getting involved in a

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space that was exciting because it was

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really new. Now take me back. You said

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that you started this journey at 16 and

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that was around what year again? 2001.

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See, that's really, really, I'm just

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thinking about it from a parent's

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perspective. I'm thinking to myself, what

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were my kids doing in 2001 and why weren't

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they to with some of this? But, but I do,

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I do have my middle son that's really into

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gaming and has been for a long time. And I

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remember as a parent thinking how in the

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world are you going to go to university

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for this and how are you going to make

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money? And now that's what he does. He's a

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beta tester for a lot of different gaming

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companies and making money, doing what he

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loves with the online community that he's

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cultivated. And I'm thinking, wow, never

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in a million years, you know, with growing

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up during the time frame that I grew up,

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would I have thought that playing duck

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hunt would eventually make money? Like.

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Yeah, great game there. I think it's one

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of those things. Yeah, it's. It's a

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generational shift. So, you know, for me,

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in those early years, yes, it was a

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struggle. The industry wasn't as developed

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as it is now. So it's great to hear that

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your son, you know, has been able to get a

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job in the industry. He's doing something

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that he enjoys for me back in those days,

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yeah, my parents were like, what are you

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doing? What are you doing with your time?

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Is this constructive? Could you be doing

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something else? And it wasn't until I then

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started to get media attention, you know,

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tv interviews, radio interviews, into the

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magazines and newspapers and things like

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that. They were like, okay, maybe there is

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something to this. Maybe we'll just give

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you a bit of grace and just see what

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happens. I would that I definitely can

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because we were often standing in the

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doorway of his room saying, what are you

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doing? And why aren't you doing something

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else? Until the job offers came, start

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coming. The contract started coming

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through and said, okay, this is great. But

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then in there, somewhere in there, you, in

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that journey, you had an accident, a bad

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accident that led to a shift into what

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you're doing now. Can you kind of walk us

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through that a little bit? Because I like

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what you were doing before, and I really

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like what you're doing now. Thank you. So

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what I'll do then is I'll sort of skip in

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sets of like ten years. So that was

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obviously the early entrepreneurial

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journey for me. That then led into setting

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up my first proper business out of

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university, doing consulting for brands,

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doing projects for them, doing events. Did

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that for a couple of years until the 2008

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financial crash closed that down, went

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through a couple of different jobs within

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the tech industry while still doing gaming

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stuff on the side. So there have been

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periods through my life where gaming has

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been front and center, and that's what

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I've been focusing on, and that's been the

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core of the business that I've had, or

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I've been working for somebody else and

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then doing the gaming stuff in the

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background. So I had that first business

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in 2008 and 2009. Fast forward a little

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bit. I then had a tech startup myself in

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2015. That was a mobile app for engaging

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fans of the gaming teams and the events,

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because that was a space I was still in

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the involved in, started well, tailed off.

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You know, the two teams that I got on

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board, first, they were loving it. They

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were seeing their fans engaged because we

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had a match predictor and giveaways and

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contents and all that sort of stuff. And

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then both of those teams got acquired by

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sports teams in the US, so one of them got

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acquired by the Philadelphia 76 ers, and

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then they were like, yeah, we don't want a

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mobile strategy right now. So there's me

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trying to build a tech startup, and

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suddenly the two main clients that I've

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got disappear because they've been

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acquired. And I'm like, this is not really

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what I was aiming for. So I tried to keep

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it going, but I had to eventually make

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that decision to close it down. So there

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have been highs and lows on the

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entrepreneurial journey. But you mentioned

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the injury. Yeah. Fast forward a little

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bit more. January 2020. I broke my neck

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playing rugby and I didn't know it was

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broken for seven weeks. Wait a minute, how

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does that work? So, I. I've never broken

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my neck, but I would think that. Talk me

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through it, because I need to process what

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you just said. You said seven weeks? Yeah.

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So I was playing rugby, so the position I

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was playing was almost like the last line

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of defense, and my job was to stop the

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opponent's scoring and I was lining

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somebody up, so to try and make a tackle.

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So, you know, if you're an american

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football fan, there are some similarities.

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You know, you in american football, you're

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almost either trying to intercept or dive

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on your opponent to stop them running.

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Similar sort of thing. If you were the

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last line of defense. Kind of sounds like

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the position. My youngest son plays

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american football, and he's what you would

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call a corner. And so if the quarterback

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has thrown a long pass, the person that's

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going to catch it is the wide receiver. Or

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if a runner has gotten loose and he's

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like, if they get past him, there's nobody

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else back there to stop them. Exactly the

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same sort of thing. So one of the opposing

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players broke through our line, so the

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only thing standing between him and

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scoring was me. So I tried to line him up

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to make the tackle and take him down. I

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got my head in the wrong position, so his

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thigh went straight into my face, twisted

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my head slightly, and we were both then

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laid out on the ground. I got up, stumbled

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to the touchline. It was actually the last

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play of the game, and it's silly because

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we'd already lost the game, but I was

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still trying to make the tackle because

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that was my job. Yeah. So I did it. I

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stopped him from scoring, but in the

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process took us both out, we both laid on

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the turf. It was like, we definitely felt

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that he was groggy, I was groggy, and I

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couldn't move my head or my neck, but it

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just felt stiff, as if I'd done a really

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hard gym session and pulled all of the

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muscles. So I then drove home, unable to

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move my head, which was an interesting

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experience. Cause I had to use my eyes to

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try and look in my wing mirrors to see

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where the traffic was. Actually turned my

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head. Like, if you guys could see my face,

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you would be completely laughing out loud

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right now. And so, to be fair to myself,

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I'm thinking about this as an american

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driver who has driven in the UK. I lived

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in the UK for about two and a half years,

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and I'm thinking to myself, how did he do

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that? That's very awkward. Like, I mean,

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even driving here out of. I can't imagine.

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But you got. You made it home safely.

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Yeah, well, so I'm actually in Dubai, so

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the traffic system over here is a lot.

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It's much similar to the US system in

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terms of the lights and the signals,

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driving on the same side of the road. I'm

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glad I wasn't in the UK, because in the UK

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you have lots of narrow roads and the

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roundabout, I'm. Thinking, how are you

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going to all. Of those sorts of things?

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Yeah. So I was fortunate in that respect.

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But, yeah, it was a difficult drive. It

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was a 40 minutes drive to get home, so it

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was really slow, really steady, trying not

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to make any errors because I didn't want

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to make anything worse. So I managed to

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get home, slept on it, then went and got a

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soft collar from the pharmacy, started

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wearing that, and the club that I was a

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member of had access to a physio. So I

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said, okay, let's go to the physio. I just

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feel like this is just really stiff. I've

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just pulled everything because of the

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impact. If I go to the physio, they'll be

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able to, you know, stick their thumbs in

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and ease bits off and it'll all be fine.

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And I did that for seven weeks. And then

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the physio went. It's not really doing

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anything. Maybe you should go and get some

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scans. So I went to the hospital and the

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consultant said, congratulations, you've

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broken your neck. Here's what we want to

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do. We want to do about probably maybe

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three to 6 hours worth of surgery. So

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we'll go in from the front because we want

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to put a plate and screws in. So we'll go

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in from the front and we'll do that for a

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couple of hours, and then we'll sew that

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up and we'll turn you over, and then we'll

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go in from the back and we'll do the same

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sort of thing and make sure that

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everything's tightened up and then you'll

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be good to go. And I was like, no, I don't

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want that surgery. It sounds horrible and

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I can't afford it. Wow. So I walked out

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and I left it and put faith in myself that

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my body was strong enough to heal, to heal

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itself. So we should have another podcast

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just about that, because that right there

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is a powerful story. You broke your neck

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playing rugby. You didn't realize for

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seven weeks that it was broken. And then

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you made an amazing decision after seeking

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medical assistance, finding out,

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confirming, yes, the neck is broken, they

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give you their professional opinions on

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what need to be done. And then you said to

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yourself, I'm not going to do that. Yeah,

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I'm not going to do that. And I'm going to

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have faith and trust and believe that my

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body will properly heal itself. And so I'm

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just going to step out here on a limb and

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say, obviously it did do that. Or is there

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some more pieces to that? Yeah. So this

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was just before COVID so we can go talk

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about the COVID situation as well. Going

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through that, obviously had the soft

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collar a lot of the time. It was. There's

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not much else I can do now. I'm putting

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the faith in my body. You know, I'll feed

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it, I'll try and get the rest. I'll do all

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those things that it's going to need to

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support it whilst I was dealing with COVID

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and the lockdowns and trying to keep the

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business going. But 18 months after that

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initial consultation, I went to get

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another set of scans because, yes, things

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had eased off. I could start to move my

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head and neck again. After a couple of

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months, I was like, okay, this is okay now

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I feel generally okay. So, yes, I still

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waited 18 months because of the lockdowns

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and financial situations and things like

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that, to go and get another set of scans.

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Different consultant, another specialist

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who had worked with a lot of sports

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injuries, so was aware of this sort of

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thing. He'd done some research because I

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actually went to a sports physio in the

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hospital who had worked with some of the

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professional team. So he'd worked with,

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like, the south african rugby team. Okay,

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he was south african. So again, had that

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understanding and appreciation of the type

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of injuries that you get playing rugby or

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that can happen. So he referred me into

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this sort of spinal consultants who did

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some research, and then when I sat down in

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front of him, he was like, I could not

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find any stories like yours. Normally,

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people wait three weeks and get surgery. I

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couldn't find anybody silly enough to not

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have surgery. So I was like, okay, well,

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that's a good start. So tell me about the

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scans that we've just done. It was like,

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what a way to. It's a miracle because your

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body has grown new bone around the brake.

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You have the range of movements and the

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strength as if nothing had happened. Wow.

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The only slight niggle is that because of

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the impact and, you know, his thigh went

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straight into my face and turned my head

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slightly. My head, yes. Is not now

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centered. It is twisted slightly to the

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right, and that means that it's impinging

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the nerve. So I get some sharp shooting

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pains in my right shoulder and into my

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right chest every now and again. But apart

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from that, it's all fine. Wow. So my body

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has been able to heal that break, and I've

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got pictures of the scans, and you can see

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what's a normal vertebrae, what's mine,

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where it's grown new bone around that

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break. Wow. Like, you have to be an

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interesting case study, medical case study

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for that. Wow. And it's hard to leave that

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story and go into what you're doing now,

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because my mind is just racing, but I'm

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gonna do. I'm gonna be disciplined, and

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I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do it because

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that was a significant piece that led you

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to the current journey that you're on and

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how you're helping female entrepreneurs,

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but still within the tech space. Talk to

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us about that transition. Yeah. So that

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injury and the lockdowns and losing 50% of

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my business because of COVID and not being

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able to do events and things. I got to a

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point in 2021 and started my own personal

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development journey of, I need to make

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some changes here. There's got to be more

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to life than this. I've just survived the

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injury, just survived Covid. What happens

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next? So started personal developments.

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First course that I took, it was a YouTube

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video. I was watching a YouTube video.

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There was an advert that came up for a

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course. I was like, what have I got to

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lose? Okay. Clicked it, bought it, started

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it. And one of the first questions was

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like, so what impact and contribution have

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you made and what's going to be said at

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your funeral? And it's like, ah, that's

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not quite what I was expecting from this

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course, but yes, it's, it's an interesting

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question and I think that's one of the

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biggest catalysts. Yes, I. Obviously the

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injury started me thinking there's got to

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be more, put everything else in a

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different light. The work that I'd been

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doing, the business that I had, is like,

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there's no impact to contribution there.

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So I started asking myself how can I use

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my skills and experience and what I've

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done, whether it's in gaming or in tech?

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So for the next year I actually focused on

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the gaming stuff. So I started creating

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resources at maths resources based on

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video games for young kids because my

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partner is a teacher. So I created maths

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resources based on Roblox and Minecraft

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and FIFA and Fortnight and among us, you

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know, those sorts of games that are

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popular at the five to twelve year age

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brackets. But then there are a couple of

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things that happened on the back of that.

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So, you know, I wrote the first book.

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First book led to the second book. And

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then now I. After doing some work within

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that space and helping a couple of people,

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I believe the universe has a plan based on

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everything that's happened to me. And I

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got to that point where there were several

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people coming up and almost slapping me in

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the face. Metaphorical slapping me in the

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face. Not actually physically because that

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would be quite painful. But it's like,

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Phil, you've got skills and experience

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here that you can use to help people. Why

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are you nothing doing that? And this was

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all the tech stuff because I've been doing

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it for 20 years. I was like, I'm not sure

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I want to do that. But I got to that point

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of realizing it's like what you don't want

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to do is what you're currently doing. It's

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not necessarily the tech that's the issue,

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it's how you are using it and who you are

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serving. That's real good. If you change

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that, you can use those skills and

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experience, you reframe it and actually it

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becomes a very different experience. So

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now I am focusing on supporting

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predominantly female coaches because I am

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a coach myself. I have a book, I have a

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course, all that sort of stuff. So it's

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helping female coaches with their sales

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pages, their email automations, their tech

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systems, so that they don't have to worry

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about all of that because that's my

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superpower. And so that they can then

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spend their time serving their clients.

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How having more impact, having that time

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with family and friends and doing all the

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things that they want to do rather than

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spending 90 million hour fighting with

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pieces of software and trying to get them

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to work because that's not a good use of

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their time. It is not. And it gives. So I

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was the individual that did that and it

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was no fun at all and counterproductive.

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It does not save money. It actually costs

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a ton of money to try to diy it. If you're

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not already tech savvy. Yeah, I say some

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people, they want to take it on themselves

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because they enjoy that journey of trying

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to learn and piece things together.

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Others, you know, you've probably been in

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this experience yourself. Sometimes you'll

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pay for speed, you'll pay for somebody

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else's expertise because they can do it

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for you and do it in a way that would

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potentially be far beyond what you could

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get to in a reasonable space of time.

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Because like anything, there are levels of

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learning. You know, I can't be a superstar

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athlete overnight. That would take a lot

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of training, but I can get a coach to

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support me in if, you know, if that's one

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of the things I wanted to do. I could

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eventually get there with support, but

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doing it on my own, chances are I would

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never get there. Would never get there.

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Would never get there. Because most, most

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successful individuals have a coach and a

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mentor. And a lot of super successful

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individuals have coaches in different

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areas that have different areas of

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expertise that help them in just, you

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know, one area of their life or one area

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of their business. And so, yeah, having

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someone on that journey with you is a key

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to, I don't want to say a key to rapid

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success. I'll say a key to sustainable

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success where it's not a one off, you

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know, situation, but it's something that

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sustains and continues to grow. And so

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you've, you've stepped into that space of

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teaching female coaches or helping female

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coaches or female entrepreneurs with their

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tech. And I think I asked you this in the

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1000% positive I did. How did you tap into

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the power of female entrepreneurs? Like,

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we are an amazing group in and of

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ourselves and so how did you get to that

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place where you identified that we have,

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that we are the niche that has the need

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and understands that we have the need?

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Great question. I mean, you've partially

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answered it that because you're an amazing

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group. So there are three reasons. The

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first is my mum. So she has been an

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entrepreneur herself. She's had her own

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businesses over the years as well as

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corporate jobs. And I have built at least

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four websites for either her businesses or

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her employers. So every time that she's in

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that situation, she's like, Phil, I know

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you've got the experience here. Can you

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help me? And, like, of course I can. So

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I've already got that experience of

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working with, you know, female

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entrepreneurs, if we use that term. The

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second reason, more recently, I have

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helped a couple of female coaches. So

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building their sales funnels, building

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their automations, helping them piece the

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different bits together so that, again,

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they can then take the next step up their

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business. And the third reason is energy.

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Now, that may sound silly coming from a

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guy, but when I released my book, when I

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started putting content out, the

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conversations that I have at events, it's

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been the ladies who have connected with

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that. The majority of the reviews on my

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book are from women, the majority of

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comments on my content from women. So I'm

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leaning into that, say, there must be

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something about my style other than the

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fact that I still look 16. But, you know,

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it's probably not that. You can add that

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to it because you look quite young. Thank

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you. Yeah, I turn 40 in October, so I'm

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not sure I'm quite looking like that yet,

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but just that energy. I find it much

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easier to have conversations, work with

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women because the energy is very

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different. You know, I've been in a rugby

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situation, playing in teams, and felt like

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the outsider because I didn't want to go

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drinking all night. I wasn't full of

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bravado. You know, that's just not me.

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Yes, obviously there is some masculinity

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there, but from an energy perspective, I

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just find it's a much better connection

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with women. Yeah, there tons of

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masculinity. Not to say that there aren't

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female rugby players, but I believe their

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male energies are. You know, the masculine

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energies are quite higher than. I don't

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mind watching american football or rugby,

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but I don't want to play it. I enjoy

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watching american football. Yeah, I mean,

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but I don't want to play it. Like, my

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husband and my sons, they played it. They

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love it. I want to play it, but then have

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some friends that love playing female

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football. So. But, yeah, that. That. For

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you to have that journey and. And say

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that, okay, it started with the help that

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you were able to give your mom, not only

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in her entrepreneurial journey, but, you

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know, because you are so great at what you

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do. The companies and her corporate

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careers have noticed that and said, hey,

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we want him to. And now that you've

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written a book, you've done the courses,

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and obviously you're a person that

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understands looking at the data, and as

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you look back at the data, you saw that

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your ideal audience was turning out to be

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female entrepreneurs. And not only were

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they loving what you were putting out, but

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you were also benefiting from the energy

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being in that place. Because I read a post

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that you did on LinkedIn recently where

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you were speaking about how you had to

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fire one of your biggest clients. That's

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scary. And, yep, it's amazing that you had

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that walk, that that walk away power with

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that. But being able to be in that, being

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able to be confident enough in who you are

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and what you do, that you can do that and

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say that, okay, that same type of

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confidence that you had to walk away from

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that very high paying client is the same

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type of confidence for me, is what I'm

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hearing that you had when you said, okay,

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I've identified this audience, and this is

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the audience that makes me feel good about

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the work that I do. So I want to continue

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to work with them. That's kind of what I'm

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feeling. What I'm feeling here. Or am I

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off? No, absolutely. I think it's. It's

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answering that question internally. What

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feels right. Can I go and work with guys?

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Absolutely. Would it be a very different

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experience? Probably. Would it be

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something that I would feel 100%

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comfortable doing? Probably not. I've

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worked in tech generally. That's a guy,

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heavy industry. I've already been in those

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spaces. The changes that I've made in my

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own life, the experiences that I've had,

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it's like, okay, what can I see myself

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doing for the next 20 years? Who is it

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that I want to help? And that's where it's

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like, yes, I am going super specific with

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what feels comfortable. Five years down

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the line, something else may change, and

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we'll see what happens then. But for right

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now, this is what feels right. Just to

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expand on that a little bit, it's not just

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about the tech. The tech is the first

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thing, because that's the skills and

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experience that I've got. But it's about

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helping them have that impact. Because if

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I can help them have impact, I'm able to

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have indirect impact, which helps me

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answer the question that I got asked on

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that first personal development course. So

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that's where I'm looking and say, you know

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what? Maybe I only work with 100. If I

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work with 100, I can work with them more

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closely. I can support them with more than

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just the tech. I can support them with all

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of the ups and downs of the business.

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Experiences that I've had over the years

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and help them to have more impact. That's

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good. That's real good. So in that

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statement, I'm just really hearing a

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person that has a heart to serve. When you

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took that course, and that question was

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there, it impacted you in such a way that

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not to say that you didn't have a heart of

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service before, because you obviously did.

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That's the reason why that question was so

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powerful for you. And now what I hear you

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saying is not only are you understanding

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that the spending power of the female

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entrepreneur in that we will invest in the

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things that we know that we need to make,

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you know, to be sustainable and to scale,

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but you're also saying that you are

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willing to not only just niche it down,

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but to be specific and keep a smaller

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group of clients so that you'll be in a

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better position to serve them in a more

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holistic manner outside of tech. Yes,

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absolutely. Yes. To give you some examples

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of, you know, what I'm thinking for here

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is, like, I want to have my own live

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events that are related to the book. Okay.

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Because, you know, I have a model and a

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framework for helping people find more

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freedom in their life. That's what the

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book is about. But. But if I have this,

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you know, almost inner circle of female

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coaches or entrepreneurs that I'm working

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with, well, then I. There's a platform for

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them to be a guest speaker, join me on

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those events, promote themselves. You

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know, it then becomes about more than just

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the tech I can come in, you know, first

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and foremost, yes, let's get that all set

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up because it can support you in growing

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your business. But once that's all done,

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what else can I help you with? How else

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can I help you grow and expand what it is

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that you're doing so you can have more

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impact? Wow. Wow. So you. You really have

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a heart for your clients to grow

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personally and professionally, and you're

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willing to give more of yourself to help

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them do that because. So it sounds like

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you're saying that the biggest win for you

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is not the income that you earn from

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helping the clients, but it's the joy that

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you receive when you see them hit their

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marks. Yeah. And that's the whole thing.

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The systems can help you do that because

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you can measure it. You get the data, you

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can see what's working and what's not. You

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can start to tweak things and you can see

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that progression. And for me, that's one

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of the key things because it's. Then I can

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look and go. The time that I have spent

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has been beneficial. I have helped people.

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I can see that there is a return there,

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aside from the financial stuff, because,

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yes, we all love that. Helps pay the bills

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and keep the lights on. Absolutely. But

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it's about, I can see that this person,

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they've grown their business, they've

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changed their family's life, they've

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impacted their clients. That is what it's

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all about. Wow. That is wonderful. That is

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wonderful. Listen, I know that people are

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sitting here taking notes and just being

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in awe of your story and your journey that

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you were able to share with us today. But

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look, I need you to tell them, how can the

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Laquita's toolbox audience connect with

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you and reach out to you to find out more

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about the services that you provide? So

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two of the main ways, you know, if you're

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a fan of social media and having those

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conversations, Facebook and LinkedIn are

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my main two platforms. I do have profiles

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elsewhere, but they're nothing, not as

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active. I don't feel comfortable with

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them. And then there are a couple of other

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resources. So aside from the tech stuff,

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because that is more of a conversation to

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understand where you are, what you're

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currently using, all that sort of stuff,

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there is a free resource that are created

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in relation to the book. So if you're an

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audio listener and you enjoy that, whether

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while you're walking or sitting in the

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park or driving to work. I've recorded a

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three episode mini podcast, about 15

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minutes each episode, and it takes people

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through the core contents of my book. So

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the first episode is helping people

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understand the twelve chains that hold us

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back. So relationships, fear, perception,

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the things that I have realized in my own

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life were holding me back, which is why I

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wrote the book. The second episode is

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okay, which are the easiest ones to break

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free of, and what does that mean for us?

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The third episode is the four steps you

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can take to break free of those chains. So

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that is free and available people can, you

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know, just stick in an email address and

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you'll get access to those three episodes.

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You join the mailing list, and then you

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can get random thoughts from me about

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what's going on in my life. And again,

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using tech to improve your businesses and

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all that sort of stuff, unsubscribe at any

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time, that's fine. I don't hold it against

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anybody. I said, you know, some people

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connect with me and feel my energy or my

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style is great. Others don't. That's just

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the way the world works. So if anybody is

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listening. And they do want access to

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that. It's available@threelifesecrets.com.

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so it's a number three. And then the words

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life secrets.com. So that's

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threelifesecrets.com. guys, make sure you

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check the show notes because that link

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will be available in the show notes. And

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go ahead, sign up. Get the, get the audio

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tracks, get the podcast miniseries, and

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listen. Give it a good listen through.

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Because what I found is in this journey,

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especially for personal growth, the more

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positive things that I can feed from, eat

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from, if I can say it in that manner, have

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deposited into me. It helps me to come one

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step closer to being the version of myself

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that I want to be in that season, you

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know, because we grow continuously, at

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least we should be growing continuously.

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And as I increase in my personal growth

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journey, that the byproduct of that is

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success in my professional life, when I'm

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growing personally, it gives me what I

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need to grow professionally. Those two

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things synergistically work together. And

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so you will have the poc, you'll have the

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in the show notes, the link to the podcast

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mini series, connect with Philip, also on

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LinkedIn and on Facebook. I'm not

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connected with him on Facebook because I,

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LinkedIn is my preferred platform, but his

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LinkedIn is pretty awesome as well. It's

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some podcasts out there. He's got some

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great things in his feature section. So

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make sure you get out to LinkedIn and

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connect with him and follow him, because

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the content that he does release on that

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platform is pretty darn awesome. I have

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enjoyed the bits that I've gone through so

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far, so I feel that you guys will as well.

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But before we wrap this up, Philip, is

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there any last thoughts that you would

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like to leave with the Laquita's toolbox

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audience? I'll leave you with a quote from

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my book. In fact, actually, I'll ask a

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question. Will you permit me to give two?

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Because I feel that they're connected, but

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they're both valuable. Yes. Go. Right.

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Okay, so the first is that happiness is a

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state of mind. Freedom is a way of living.

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Okay, so that's the first thought. I love

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that. Say that one more time. Say it real

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loud for the people in the back. Happiness

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is a state of mind. Freedom is a way of

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living. Okay, so that's the first thing.

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The second thing. And again, it goes back

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to what I've written in the book. I took

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the word freedom because that's important

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to me. Freedom has always been my highest

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level of value. That's why I've been an

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entrepreneur for so long. And I looked at

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each of the letters, I was like, can I

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create a memorable phrase that's easy for

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me to remember that, you know, I can stick

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on the wall next to me when I'm working

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and all those sorts of things. And it's

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like, yes, I found something. So the word

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freedom, I changed into the phrase

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focused. Repetition enables experiences,

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desires, opportunities, and money. Wow. So

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say that one more time. Freedom is

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focused. Repetition enables experiences,

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desires, opportunities, and money. Love

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that. I absolutely love both of those

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things. Look, y'all, y'all should have

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wrote that down. But if you did not write

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that down, don't worry. This is a podcast.

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Hit rewind. Listen to this episode again.

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Make sure you're taking copious notes, and

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by all means, those last two points.

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Because, you know, repetition is the key

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to knowledge. I'm gonna have you to give

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me those last two points one more time in

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case somebody was like, he went through

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too fast, give it to him one more time.

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So, the first is that happiness is a state

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of mind, and we can manage that. Freedom

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is a way of living, how we want to use our

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time, what we put our energy into. And

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then the second thing is that the word

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freedom can be thought of as a phrase. So

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each letter. The FDA is for focused. So

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focused. Repetition enables experiences,

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desires, opportunities, and money. Wow.

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Wow. Listen, y'all, on that note, we're

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going to end this episode of Laquita's

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toolbox. Connect with Philip on his social

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media platforms, on Facebook and LinkedIn.

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